The Guilt of Adoptees

The Guilt of Adoptees

Have you ever heard of a “gotcha day” for an adoptee? It’s a day to celebrate this child coming into a new family. It’s a widely used term actually and many people will often ask adoptees if they celebrate their gotcha day. 


Here’s the thing about that though. 


Whenever the focus is solely about bringing the child into the new family, you’re forgetting one major thing...

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3 Common Lies About Adoptees

3 Common Lies About Adoptees

I think there are a lot of assumptions surrounding adoption and how adoptees feel about it. I’ve heard many thoughts about it, usually from people who were not adopted themselves. It’s not to say that those opinions aren’t valid. We all have a voice and we should be able to express it. That being said, if you weren’t adopted then you aren’t capable of knowing what it’s like. Just because you know an adopted person or you have a friend whose brother was adopted doesn’t actually make you an adoptee expert. I say this in love and with a little sly humour because that’s just how I roll. 


I decided to cover three common lies about adoptees and here they are!...

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Adoptees, Adoption

How I Sabotaged My Weight

How I Sabotaged My Weight

I used to self sabotage every area of my life. Every relationship ended, I buried myself in debt I couldn’t pay off, I failed constantly at everything I tried, I gained weight like crazy, and no matter what I just couldn’t seem to stop the cycle. 


Growing up I was always athletic. Shortly after the birth of my second child I was diagnosed with cancer and my weight ballooned. I didn’t get the weight off before I was pregnant with my third and by the time he was born I was almost 100lbs overweight. I was so embarrassed and ashamed and those feelings prompted me to get my weight on track in 2014. That year I lost 60lbs just by eating real food following the Trim Healthy Mama plan and I felt absolutely amazing. I even became an admin for their FB groups since I was so knowledgable of the plan. 


Then 2015 happened...

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Dear Adopting Parent…Here’s What You Should Know

Dear Adopting Parent…Here’s What You Should Know

I’ve been pretty vocal about my life as an adoptee lately and as a result I’ve had adoptive parents (or potential adoptive parents) ask me what they should know about adopting. I think it’s wonderful that you’re asking. So many adoptive parents don’t bother to ask that kind of thing and frankly, they should. 


The first thing you should know is this...

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Mother’s Day for the Adoptee

Mother’s Day for the Adoptee
Another Mother’s Day is here and I’m bracing myself for the yearly Facebook post of how proud you are of your two daughters. The thing is, there are three of us. I’ve been in the shadows for so long that the sunlight hurts my face now. Constantly asked to hide who I am that I ended up forgetting who I was. It’s taken me a long time to find myself again. It’s taken me even longer to come out of my shell and start to become the person I know I was created to be. I wish that...
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