I don't Hate Adoption

I don't Hate Adoption

I am not an adoptee that hates adoption. I love my adoptive family and have always been grateful to be a part of my family. By all accounts, my parents did everything right. They were always honest with me about my adoption, where I came from, and what little they knew. My mom even went so far as to create a bridge for me between her and my biological mother so that I would have at least that connection to my history. I feel very blessed to have grown up in such a loving environment. 


That being said...

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Navigating Adoption & Mental Heath as an Adoptee

Navigating Adoption & Mental Heath as an Adoptee

Hi, my name is Meggan, and I’m a transracial adoptee. I picture myself seated in a circle in with other adoptees as I type that. 


“Hi Meggan.” They’d respond and then I would share my story of heartache and sorrow to the only group of people who will ever truly understand. The truth is though, that kind of support doesn’t exist for adoptees yet, but it should. 


I am half white and half black and back in 1982 that made me undesirable...

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The Broken Truth of Adoption

The Broken Truth of Adoption

You know those adoption announcements made by adoptive parents celebrating their adoptive child’s homecoming? Most adoptees can’t stand them. It’s hard for an adoptee to watch these parents celebrate this baby coming to live with them when we know the truth. 


My precious friend Stacey Gagnon is an adoptive and foster mom and she captured the broken truth of adoption so beautifully in a recent Facebook post that I asked if I could share it and she said yes. So if you’re wondering how it really is and why adoptees dislike it when people celebrate the baby without acknowledging the trauma ~ here you go...

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Can We Please Stop Telling Moms to Enjoy Every Moment of Motherhood? It’s Toxic.

Can We Please Stop Telling Moms to Enjoy Every Moment of Motherhood? It’s Toxic.

I love being a mom with every fiber of my being. As soon as I found out I was pregnant for the first time I cried actual tears of joy. This is a big deal for someone who never used to show any kind of emotion. I was so excited to be a mom and have someone in my life with my DNA because as a transracial adoptee, I didn’t grow up with anyone who looked like me. 


I decided to be a stay at home mom so that I could spend the most amount of time with my kids as possible and when it came time to send my five year old off to kindergarten, I just couldn’t do it and we decided to homeschool. I genuinely love getting to spend every single day with my three kids and I wouldn’t trade that for anything. 


That being said…

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How to Stop Being a Self Sabotaging Adoptee

How to Stop Being a Self Sabotaging Adoptee

I used to self sabotage every area of my life. It wasn’t on purpose of course, I didn’t intend to do it, it just seemed to happen. It was frustrating to say the least. Doing the same thing over and over again without actually knowing why can make a person feel completely crazy. 


Of course now I know why...

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