I’ve always believed that pushing through was the most courageous thing someone could do. I “pushed through” as an entrepreneur for thirteen years and I’ll admit it did take a lot of courage to keep showing up.
I “pushed through” for seventeen years with my birth mother hoping that she would eventually let me exist in her world without being a secret. That took a ton of courage on my part but you know what took even more?
I don’t think that we give people enough credit for leaving. For standing up and saying, “Actually, I deserve better than this.” Walking away from toxic situations is so much more terrifying than just putting up with them.
When I walked away from a job in 2020 it was so scary because it was about so much more than the job for me. Walking away meant that I was on my own. That everything I had been building for the previous five years was now just gone.
Would I succeed on my own?
Was I worth believing in at all?
There was only one way to find out. So I leapt off the cliff and what I realized was that the anchor keeping me stuck on that hill wasn’t even attached to me. All I needed to do was let go of it. I thought it was keeping me safe but it was actually keeping me tied down.
How many chains do we unintentionally attach to ourselves thinking that they’ll keep us safe? We stay in toxic situations because it’s safer than imagining the unknown. It’s scarier to take a chance on ourselves and dare to believe that we might actually be able to fly on our own. The truth is, that’s exactly what we were created to do.
There is beauty on the other side of your massive courage. I know what it’s like to have to muster up every ounce of courage you possess in order to walk away from someone knowing that they’ll never understand why. Knowing that they’ll never even ask you why. Knowing that you’ll remain the villain in their story.
The only way to be the hero in your story is to do the thing that scares you. The thing that deep down you know is exactly what you are being called to do. If today that means walking away from a toxic situation, know that I am sending you all of my love and courage.
You are braver than you think friend and you can do hard things.
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